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Bridge over troubled water [1638} #StrictMotivation

This outstanding album by Simon & Garfunkel could be a wonderful topic for writing, not just an article, but whole books. And I am sure, if we boot together everything that ha sbeen witten about the album, books would be filled. This is not the Nth article about a musical masterpiece , but it has so many parallels to it, I felt this writing is worthy of the catchy title. What I am to write about could easily fill a book or more as well, would be worth to be written, and can potentially reach and touch and move as many people, as the album had. What this writing is about, is about that metaphor, chosen for the album, and the metaphor applies to a vast majority of people at one point or another in their life. This article is worthy to be written, and worthy of that title.


People ask Me, what is Strict Motivation Behavioral Discipline and how does it work. Strict Motivation Behavioral Discipline is a program I have developped, that is individually tailored to the specific needs of an individual who find themselves in a life’s ditch. It is a working, step by step program that will turn life’s adversity into the energy to fuel and propel its user at life. No matter what adversity we are talking about, step by step with the right working tools, the situation can be turned around not just for a lesser evil, or even the better, it can actually be turned into success. How? step by step.


Let’s get back to the metaphor of this writing. When you are in a ditch, in your life you feel a lot like you are an island surrounded by troubled water. Your efforts to get out of the situation are not being crowned with success. You have no reward in putting in the effort and so you are prone to giving up. Your faith is erraded, your self worth starts suffering. With every futile attempt to make things better, and often the experience on top with matters becoming even worse, and more dire you become more and more engulfed by the trap, until it starts growing to become your second nature.


You start giving up, because the troubled water around your island prevents you getting back on your feet on the main land, so you make the best from the bad – at best, and learn to live in that isolation. You have no means to cross over to the other side, and you are helplessly watching how that troubled water eats up parts of your island, in floods, or maybereveals new parts once flooded in ebbs, and you just learn to get along, more or less effectively on that island of yours, but you are feeling the emptiness of a cast away. You may over time even bring yourself to mostly forget, that out there is a main land, that you once were a part of, before the floods and troubled water cut you off.


I am the architect and builder of the Strict Motivation Behavioral Discipline program, which in essence means, that I know the theory and the practice of building that bridge over troubled waters. I will not be using, by passes, like a trunk of a tree, wet and slippery, for you to use as a bridge, from your island to the main land. I am talking of a sophisticated, safe bridge, stable enough to withstand the troubled waters, come flood come storm!


You may feel this is impossible, and from your prespective, it must seem like a dream, or a fantasy. It is not like you havent tried and failed miserably before! It is not like you arent intelligent and savvy-. How can I be so thick as to try where you, (and maybe others before Me) have failed?


There is a huge difference at play here though. I dont expect you, to know how to build the bridge, because your thinking and doing helped putting you in that situation. I rely on My working program and implement it with your help but not giving you much of a choice. You will do things as I tell you to, and the more effort you put into doing as you are told, as opposed to doing as you have gotten used to, the more progress there will be, and the sooner results will show.


And while you are the one who reaps the benefits of this in the end, My pay-off is not depending on your progress. I am not giving you the privilege nor the burden to make Me happy, to control the situation nor to determine by evaluation when the goal is reached. And while I am doing this with you and for you, I am not making it because of you. The cause why I am doing it is outside your reach, and thus you cannot mess it up. It is not in your hands to be messed up in the first place. My payoff is to have reconnected another island with the mainland and equipped the island owner with knowing how to keep and maintain this bridge functional at all times, no matter what the circumstance. To equip the island oner with the capabitity to not get cut off again, and to navigate safely and productively through life


It is a step by step approach. Metaphorically I am throwing bricks and stones into the water between the island and the mainland. It may appear to be eratic , coincidental, chaotic. It may not make much sense to you. You cannot see how at the ground of the water slowly the foundation is layed, stone by stone, brick by brick, for a solid bridge to be built upon. And yes there will be quakes, and break downs, and some of the bricks get carried away, and some of the stons will be moved. But with constant consistant effort, in the end, the foundation will have been built.



That very foundation may even make the troubled water appear more troubled, appear more powerful. As we are closing the gabs, and building that foundation we are reclaiming and seizing territory, where once the water could flow however it wanted to. Now it is taken away space and will therefore appear more rageing, stronger, and more dangerous.. But this is not My first rodeo. Eventually the bridge will be built, strong enough to become a headland itself, organic and strong, sustainqable and sustaining, forming an unshakable foundation for a bridge.


The lanquet itself would make for a good bridge, but experience shows that half way done is not good enough. Just rekindling the former connection will not bring an ongoing result. This is where others have failed. By thinking, well good enough, we got some dry land to the island, the rest will happen byitself. When you are dealing with troubled water as your counterpart, that same water that will eventually undercut a stone, you need to keep your efforts up. You cannot settle for almost. You have to keep getting better and strive for the once thought impossible, to bring that miracle to life


Together, with My instructions followed up by your directed effort, we will make this miracle possible. We will create a lanquette to your island on which we will build a solid bridge for you to use. We will equip you with navigational tools that work under any circumstance and give you an engine and transmission that are able to use any form of energy to propel you at life. We are equipping you with a true choice, to be paired with your free will. So you can make decissions based on freedom, and not under pressure.


This is how Strict Motivation Behavioral Discipline works. This is the music it creates. This is the bridge it is building, through hard work, dedication, and commitment to getting (you) better.


You will probably think, that a worthy program like this must be very expensive and only affordable for those lucky chosen few, who were born into wealth, but you would be very wrong to be thinking that. My rates are reasonable and easily affordable. For less than the price of an average fast food meal a day you could become part of the success at life, reaching worthy life goals, healthy living, achievements and happiness.



Now you actually are offered a choice: to stay in the ditch, on that island, in the mind to suffer from the arrows of outrageous fortune, feeding the principles furthering your miserey, or to take working arms against the sea of troubles and win at the game called life, learning to use whatever energy there is to advance, grow, propel and prosper. You have the choce between being held captive or liberation, between staying hungry or feeling satiety.


You have the choice to learn to use working tools and develop coping skills to end dysfunctional coping mechanisms and automatic reactive behaviors that so far are nothing but a band-aid and bond with misery. You can choose liberty. Choose wisely.



I am with you #StrictMotivation

I am with you
I am with you come storm come flood
I am with you no matter what
when it runs cold, your blood
when you feel like freeze
when you think you cannot breathe
when you feal like dying
when you feel like crying
when you are dried of your tears
when you are stabbed by your fears
I am not just near
I am with you

I am with you
I am with you inspiring diligence
I am with you pushing you to work
You are My responsibility
My boy or My girl
I am with you not just in your times of convenience
I am with you when you are about to break
I am with you early to late
I am with you through the darkest night
when you feel like you cant do it
when you feel like flight
when you feel like you will lose the battle
cannot fight
I am inspiring you
to never give up
and to keep going, keep growing
for I am with you

I am with you
I am with you when you falter,
I am with you even when you fail
not just when you feel accomplished
but also when you’re feeling frail
I am with you, tending to your scars
when you feel like alone, under God’s vast skies
when you forget, you too are made of the dust of stars
when self loathing infests your heart
I am with you protecting you
even from yourself
I am with you, and wont let you go to hell

I am with you
not against you, I work with you
when you try to break out
from the rules keeping you safe
when you are ridden by doubt
when you feel like a rag doll of cruel fate
I am with you
offering help, offering a cure
giving Strict Motivation
with dedication, determination and devotion
holding you to a standard
making you grow
providing redemption
helping you to glow,
to shine like the star so bright
defeating your doubts,
reclaiming your sleep-filled night
I am with you

I am with you
Even though I serve you, I am not your slave
Even though I may stand you in the corner
I dont trap you in a cage
Even though there is pain
there is never abuse
Even if you try, I dont settle for a cheap excuse
Even if you are sorry
I wont fall for the trap of that story
I am with you so you cannot lie
I am with you so you push hard, not just ‘try’
I am with you to make you get better
I am with you because you too do matter
I am with you for your own sake
I am with you, knowing what is at stake
I am with you, for you I care
I am with you to help defeat any nightmare

I am with you
I am with you, not just near
I am with you through laughter and tears
I am with you keeping you strong
I am with you
showing you where you belong
I am with you, shore to shore
I am with you
even if growth leaves you sore
I am with you night and day
helping you, chasing the gray away
I am with you against depression
I am with you against frustration
I am with you against aggression
I am with you when you are going through the motions
or when you’re overwhelmed with raging emotions
I am with you

I am with you
like a rock
I am with you withstanding shock
I am with you, unshaken
I am with you
strength awaken
I am with you: like a cave
offering shelter
yet not letting you cave
to that which destroys, which defeats
I will help you up
on your own two feet
embrace the fortress, the stronghold I am
and reject the fear
because indeed,
you can



StrictMotivation for May 2016 The Traps of Sarcasm Pouting and Stubborn Defiance {1604


Sarcasm, another service I offer. I have heard people state this infamous line as if sarcasm was some sort of saving grace. And yes sometimes sarcasm seems to be the better alternative to behaviors we find stupid or ridicolous. Making fun out of a bad situation actually is using humor as defense mechanism, and that can be a viable approach to maintain a piec eof your mental peace and sanity.

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When sarcasm becomes your second skin however, something is off. You should look a bit under the surface, why you are using a potentially intellectually hurtful attitude towards other people or situations. Why is it, that you feel so inferior, you have to misuse your intellect to complain and ridicoule instead of solving a problem? Sure in some situations the perpetuator of the problem is not interested in a solution, but you seem to have some emotional business thats unfinished here at play, else you wouldnt be hurting so much. So what is it that got you hurt first, defensive next, hurtful in the  process and  basically passive aggressive?


Sometimes we are trapped in another form of passive aggression, that of stubborness. I am not talking the stubborness, that helps you grow, we call that kind of stubborness committment or dedication, sometimes devotion or even drivenness. But knowing that something is not working out well and yet insisting to do it your way all the time even if it means hurting or crippling yourself in teh process, actually is a kind of stubborness that is overtly  self harming in nature so a brilliant example of passive aggressive and auto-aggressive behaviors that are not becoming to you


Further there are two even more prominent players in this field. For one it is the potty mouth. Look, everyone may swear once in a while, but when all you can do is  follow up one profanity with another, and rising that bar (or actually lowering your  sociability level to the gutter more and more – you can be certain that you are being passive aggressive, with some choice words. The potty mouth syndrome is part of the growing up process, when you have discovered the power of the shocking misuse of language, and this way got attention, one of the most valued currencies in human relations, or actually even the animal kingdom. So dropping your f bombs left and right and talking like a sailor are not signs of intelligence, not even independance, but acrtually showcase how you are overwhelmed and stuck in some passively aggressive toddler/child like mannerism


Last not least we will address the fourth player which is defiance. It can be linked with any of the above or come by itself. Trying to willfully disobey rules, break rules and laws, entiteling yourself to define what you will abide by and what not without any regard for why these rules are in place. Playing unsafely, unruly, unlawfully, being the rebel – not the jasper – and playing msifit and outlaw yet inherently only hurting yourself – these are classic signs of passive aggression, that ultimately will lead to self harm. The mildest form of defiance is sulking and pouting. Instead of admitting how much something hurts and needs to be changed, we prefer to make complaints designed to keep things as they are. You prefer comfort and convenience to integrity and the challenge of change.


No greater good is served by any of the passive aggressive behaviors It is a very temporary relief of feelingsof inferiority, helplessness, over-powerdness and an expression of frustration. Instead of choosing a behavior that will attract a diferent outcome, one that will suit you in the long run. Instea dof putting in teh energy to btter yourself and position yourself  set up for victoty, you keep feeding your own victimhood, and thus keep setting yourself up for more hurt and more failings. Being passively aggressive is therefore  one of the ways of a self fulfilling prophecy. Stemming from feelings of inferiority and  defenselessness, ultimately of weakness, you  choose to use unfit tools, that will dig you even deeper into the mud you despise.  Instead of taking chances  and the opportunity to grow past obstacles, finding solutions to problems and  overcoming obstacles as challenges that will help you build yourself up, you are choosing to let these circumstance jerk you around like a rag doll, making you feel even less worthy of growth, strength health and dignity.


all kinds of passive aggression are setting you up for failure. Their only power of comfort is the old *told you so* of its self serving and self fulfilling prophecy. There is no inherently good, building up or creative power behind passive aggression. Apart from the odd slur, the only way to overcome it is letting go of it and the attitude behind it.



You are not helpless. You are not worth-less. You do deserve your concerns to be heard and acknowledged. You deserve to get better. You matter.


You need to start with yourself. Before you can expect others to hear you out and care you nee dto start caring about yourself and listening to your needs, over your wants. Usually the things you want are not that much good for you. What you need is to build yourself an environment that will facilitate growth and building you up. An environment that holds you accountable and to a standard and that facilitates change and growth so you can reach the next level in life. It is not the others job to get you better, but your own. You have to invest the time and energy, but the reward is a life, worth living, from a position of plenty.


Instead of feeling rendered helpless, you could be empowered. Instead of cheap cope outs you could developping strategies to succeed and setting yourself up for achievement and satisfaction. Doesnt that sound much better than being sarcastic and feeling defiant?

Dont complain the darkness, light a candle, and become the change you want to see happening

reclaim your strength, empower yourself and reach your goals, because you do deserve no less.






Sir MEaner, © 2003-2017

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