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themed BDSM, D/s, Spanko or Strict Motivation musings, reflecting the philosophy/psychology of this world of ours,

a little Daddy Christmas poem

Daddy, Daddy, the lil’ one asks
like their life depends just on that task

Daddy, Daddy, answer me

what will i find, under the tree?

Will Santa bring me: awesome toys

a dolly truck, that makes some noise?

Will I get stuffies or that doll

and candy chocolates galore?

will there be a little house

and a neat new pink-purple blouse?

Daddy, Daddy: I confess

I also need a mermaid dress!

and my coat looks all too worn

and please, I need a unicorn!

and then adds with whiny tone

Daddy, I wanna new phone!

Daddy listens, Daddy smiles

He has not heard that in a while

But when the tone gets all too shrill

Daddy cools down that too much thrill!

Come here, My lil one, listen please

Daddy speaks to the little tease

So many wishes, you have told

Are you sure, that you’re not spoiled?

No! no pouting – little one…

I know you just want to have fun

you did not mean it, getting wild

acting like an – ungrateful – child!

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I know, My lil one, you have big eyes

and as not to spoil the surprise

while there is no guarantee

what Santa packs under the tree

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I heard the angels as they say

Father Christmas has His ways

I heard the elders, who are wise

Yet only for children, who are nice!

Being nice, not tantrum dance

waiting, showing some patience

even though, it’s quite some wait

showing still some self restraint!

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I also hear the Elves, they whisper…

Naughty children meet with Mister

Mister Wooden, Spoon or Brush…

better be patient and do not rush!

 

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should the D enjoy punishing?

I am in My relationships (usually) the Disciplinarian. In any case being a life coach, a motivator I am using deterrents and punishments to stop unwanted behaviors and rewards , praise etc to enforce and encourage wanted behaviors. As such it comes with the territory that transgressions against the rules will find a response in turn, which for the sake of simplicity I will call punishment.

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I am empathic, which means more than just being able to imagine how someone else probably feels but I am also a Sadist, which means that I am able to enjoy someone else’s suffering. So here you have an emotional dilemma: On the one hand I can feel the pain and suffer with them, on the other I can enjoy their pain. My solution is quite simple; I don’t enjoy their needless (senseless) suffering; I only enjoy the suffering that has a good cause, ideally the one I am dishing out. All punishments I administer are consensual in nature or CNC based, depending on what them and Me had negotiated. I believe that only those who can freely say no, can actually say yes at all.

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So, My goal is to help people get better. I am NOT setting them up to fail, but actually to succeed. I give them rules and guidelines and keep pushing them to realize their (our) goals. If they leave the designed path or stray, they know there will be a consequence of punishment, which will be not to be enjoyed. It may help them to know that I am able to “enjoy” dishing it out, but they will know with no uncertainty, that I am displeased in their lack of investment. They will not have much time to enjoy “pleasing Me” by giving Me an “opportunity to punish.”

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Those under my wings get, what I refer to as maintenance punishments, which is a dose of discipline, just a taste of the punishment they would have coming if they did break rules. That maintenance, that preemptive strike, helps to get the itch out so they don’t need to act out in order to get the mixed feelings of some excitement mixed in to fear etc, that only punishment can actually provide. So that isn’t an issue either.

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you know that saying, *’this hurts Me more, than it hurts you’* which refers to the fact,  that a breakdown of the rules isn’t that enjoyable, or that the one taking care of someone else actually does feel quite hurt by having to seriously punish – and hurt – those in their care.

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I personally (thanks to My Sadist side) don’t have that much difficulty with that, plus: I use it actually for their own good within limits and I am always making sure, that I am not acting out of the wrong motivations. Because the punishments I give are, a service to them, more, than they are there for My pleasure (that includes, getting even, vengeance, anger etc – all feelings that must NOT play any role at all) So while yes, I am capable to very deeply enjoy that which I am dishing out, I do not do it to scratch My itches, and I do it with a clearly defined purpose, dare I say ethically.

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I know that those who are under My wings may feel a sort of extra motivation to endure My, – often described as harsh – punishments; partially in the light of “I am doing it as a testament of my will to submit; for Sir” etc, but I don’t see any troubles with that, because it is neither about what I (or they) may enjoy, nor about the punishment itself; it is about the result of helping them become the best, they can be.

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#StrictMotivation #wejustgetbetter

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#cornertime

#SSC  #scolding #spanking/#soaping #cornertime. Those familiar to it – certainly those in My care – know what this is all about. Those racing contradictory emotions. The dread and the isolation of confinement. The dullness as time drags its leaded feet. the echo of the voice lecturing. The drilling questioning of a thorough interrogation about motives and motivations. The haunting memory of *that look* of dismay from the One in charge. 

The apprehension of the implements and the bitter sensations they are about to deliver. That shiver down the spine and that tension… If this cornerthing could just be over with… But it will be soon: too soon and then this deserted empty dreadful place will feel like a safe harbour rather not to be left for what will be coming next will be by far much more impressive… 

#StrictMotivation #wejustgetbetter 

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super busy day ahead, so much MonYay fun to be had. we will just work and be behaved, not run up any tally that just would hurt #StrictMotivation #wejustgetbetter

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perception forms reality.
Depending on your attitude your day will develop. Be #SMart and set your mind straight on track to achieve greatness and happiness. #StrictMotivation #wejustgetbetter #stepbystep #holistic #lifecoaching #success #discipline #weightloss #healthyliving #gemstonehealing

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I do not reward bad behaviors. If you push away My deeply caring for you, punishing My kindness: I will make sure you learn what harshness feels like. #StrictMotivation #wejustgetbetter #stepbystep

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a storm brewing over a stinging nettles forest: if your behavior is threatening doom, you are putting even a cuddly caring Sir’s patience to a test… and I will do what I know is best Bitter Medicine, Structure and Discipline provide #SMart success!

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the dark clouds on the blue sky are like a symbol, but Francis the frog is too. you see, I always try to be kind and nice to Mine. I am cuddly, loving, caring, and understanding. A good listener, a reasonable advisor. But if you choose to ignore My kindness, or push Me away there are many an owie thing growing on the back of My yard, at the back of My mind. and as grey rain clouds pass by, by raining down, so will your tears cleanse your act, I will make super sure about that. #StrictMotivation #wejustgetbetter #stepbystep #holistic #lifecoaching #success #weightloss #discipline #healthyliving #gemstonehealing  (c)StrictMotivation@yahoo.com

 

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what if, #LGBTQ? #food4thought #SM1707

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July knocked on the door and put Pride Month on a shelf, far far behind us. Why do I bring this article now that all the diversity flags have been rolled up and put to storage until they are ritually needed in June 2018 again? So, was I hibernating? No, even though the month of pride has passed. For many of our fellows this is not an item for a day, a parade, a party or month, it is a day to day 24/7/365 and then some topic. And if we are to be our sisters’ and brothers’ keeper, we cannot be a sleeper for 11 months and then only articulate our solidarity when the calendar reminds us every June. We need to stand by them as we want ours to stand with us, all around the clock. Without further ado:

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what if… God has a plan?

We all have heard how homosexuality is named a sin against creation. We all can only try to imagine what it feels like to be condemned by the self-righteous for the sin to love someone you are not supposed to. Romeo and Juliet comes to mind. Even harder to imagine is how confusing and very difficult a life would be, if we knew with every fibre of our being that we are not the gender our reproductive parts suggest. And then we would hear how God makes no mistakes, so evidently that would mean that we must be to blame for feeling gender-wise misplaced. What an awfully isolating feeling. What a horrific nightmare that would be.

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But what if, God makes no mistakes and, at the same time, all these people (especially in western countries) realize that their designated gender identity and the bodily displayed one are not in sync? What about all those women and men awakening on the sexual spectrum attracted more to the same sex than the opposite? What about the growing number of people who realize their sexual and gender identity is in flux, who identify as gender fluid? What about all these brothers and sisters, children of God and created in His image, as we all are, who realize they are something very different, queer, or even sexually not driven much (if at all), those flagging asexual. What, if, for Heaven’s sake, God had a plan?

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I return to biblical interpretation that homosexuality was a sin against creation. In a very literal sense homosexuality is actually a sin against pro-creation. Because by the usual methods, the “natural” intercourse, a homosexual couple cannot pro-create, and the Holy Book clearly commands us to be fertile and reproduce. So, by that same logic, all those who refuse (for whatever reason) to procreate and reproduce are also in sin against creation. But that would include those heterosexual couples who for biological reasons cannot bear a child. It would include, even more so, all those couples (as well as singles) who through their God given free will decide against becoming parents. So, all those people are sinners against creation too? But I digress, because, what if God has a plan?

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What if, what we are witnessing in the awakening and rise of people associated with the LGBTQ community, is not a display of deviation and defiance toward the Law of the Lord but in fact was a display of God has a plan? What if, these very people (a minority, for now) are the next logical step in the evolution of mankind? Not despite their differences. Not because they go against the strain procreation demands, but just because?

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What if God has a plan that does not exclude those who are evidently so much more different than the majority of us, because they are the beginning of a new branch on the same old tree of life? What if this is Mother Earth’s reply to the growing overpopulation worldwide that is jeopardizing the welfare of the planet as a whole? What if this new branch of people out of sync with pro-creation of new life but in experiencing all life does have to offer to non-biological parents or childless people in fact were exactly in sync with God’s will for the well-being of the planet as a whole? Would not these very people who do not bring new life to this world be protecting the resources of all, simply by not adding to the resource eating tally?

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What if God has a plan includes that deviation from the original concept of procreation and fertile growth, because the planet is about to collapse under the weight of too many people needing all the things. Because wars are breaking out over clean water and food. Because precious children (younger faces of God) are dying by the thousands, daily world-wide, are being shunned, abused, exploited and forced into wars, labour or prostitution, denied basic human rights or even a chance for education. What if God has a plan, wanting that there would be more loving, caring good homes that need children, their owners unable to create their own biological children, but potentially excellent parents wishing to adopt or foster children who else would be subjected to human trafficking, poverty, racist, religious or gender based hate, exploitation, abuse, hunger, starvation, mutilation and death?

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What if God has a plan, and all those minorities, all those who defy the mainstream heterosexual procreation dictate, the lesbians, the gay, the asexual, the bisexuals, the poly-amorous lot, the kinky people, the transgendered, the gender fluid, the queer, those who don’t wish for a child, the single householders, what if they were not an unwanted deviation but exactly an answer to an existing real threat and part of God’s plan? And what if they were not in sin, but actually in sync with God, created different, like we all are, their own very special creation? What if they were not to be shunned but to be respected, as part of a solution to the overpopulation the mainstream has created and continues to perpetuate?

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Who is anyone to know and judge, when the same Holy Book says, “judge not”? What if God has a plan is to develop our humankind to be just that: human and kind. Can we afford to take the risk and stand against the Will of God? What if God, who makes no mistakes, did not make a mistake creating this new branch of people, who do not add to the problem and have potential to be an active part of a solution to a procreation dictate that has become obsolete. What if they are the future and not a mistake, by the Will of God who errs not? Should we not treat them with dignity and respect and clean up our own act first, before condemning what is different, but evidently God’s Will?

#StrictMotivation #wejustgetbetter (c) 2017 StrictMotivation@yahoo.com

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Happy and Blessed Fourth of July, Independence day. in the year of the Lord 2017

play safe and sane, you know the game! #StrictMotivation

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