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themed BDSM, D/s, Spanko or Strict Motivation musings, reflecting the philosophy/psychology of this world of ours,

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super busy day ahead, so much MonYay fun to be had. we will just work and be behaved, not run up any tally that just would hurt #StrictMotivation #wejustgetbetter

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perception forms reality.
Depending on your attitude your day will develop. Be #SMart and set your mind straight on track to achieve greatness and happiness. #StrictMotivation #wejustgetbetter #stepbystep #holistic #lifecoaching #success #discipline #weightloss #healthyliving #gemstonehealing

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I do not reward bad behaviors. If you push away My deeply caring for you, punishing My kindness: I will make sure you learn what harshness feels like. #StrictMotivation #wejustgetbetter #stepbystep

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a storm brewing over a stinging nettles forest: if your behavior is threatening doom, you are putting even a cuddly caring Sir’s patience to a test… and I will do what I know is best Bitter Medicine, Structure and Discipline provide #SMart success!

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the dark clouds on the blue sky are like a symbol, but Francis the frog is too. you see, I always try to be kind and nice to Mine. I am cuddly, loving, caring, and understanding. A good listener, a reasonable advisor. But if you choose to ignore My kindness, or push Me away there are many an owie thing growing on the back of My yard, at the back of My mind. and as grey rain clouds pass by, by raining down, so will your tears cleanse your act, I will make super sure about that. #StrictMotivation #wejustgetbetter #stepbystep #holistic #lifecoaching #success #weightloss #discipline #healthyliving #gemstonehealing  (c)StrictMotivation@yahoo.com

 

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what if, #LGBTQ? #food4thought #SM1707

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July knocked on the door and put Pride Month on a shelf, far far behind us. Why do I bring this article now that all the diversity flags have been rolled up and put to storage until they are ritually needed in June 2018 again? So, was I hibernating? No, even though the month of pride has passed. For many of our fellows this is not an item for a day, a parade, a party or month, it is a day to day 24/7/365 and then some topic. And if we are to be our sisters’ and brothers’ keeper, we cannot be a sleeper for 11 months and then only articulate our solidarity when the calendar reminds us every June. We need to stand by them as we want ours to stand with us, all around the clock. Without further ado:

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what if… God has a plan?

We all have heard how homosexuality is named a sin against creation. We all can only try to imagine what it feels like to be condemned by the self-righteous for the sin to love someone you are not supposed to. Romeo and Juliet comes to mind. Even harder to imagine is how confusing and very difficult a life would be, if we knew with every fibre of our being that we are not the gender our reproductive parts suggest. And then we would hear how God makes no mistakes, so evidently that would mean that we must be to blame for feeling gender-wise misplaced. What an awfully isolating feeling. What a horrific nightmare that would be.

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But what if, God makes no mistakes and, at the same time, all these people (especially in western countries) realize that their designated gender identity and the bodily displayed one are not in sync? What about all those women and men awakening on the sexual spectrum attracted more to the same sex than the opposite? What about the growing number of people who realize their sexual and gender identity is in flux, who identify as gender fluid? What about all these brothers and sisters, children of God and created in His image, as we all are, who realize they are something very different, queer, or even sexually not driven much (if at all), those flagging asexual. What, if, for Heaven’s sake, God had a plan?

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I return to biblical interpretation that homosexuality was a sin against creation. In a very literal sense homosexuality is actually a sin against pro-creation. Because by the usual methods, the “natural” intercourse, a homosexual couple cannot pro-create, and the Holy Book clearly commands us to be fertile and reproduce. So, by that same logic, all those who refuse (for whatever reason) to procreate and reproduce are also in sin against creation. But that would include those heterosexual couples who for biological reasons cannot bear a child. It would include, even more so, all those couples (as well as singles) who through their God given free will decide against becoming parents. So, all those people are sinners against creation too? But I digress, because, what if God has a plan?

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What if, what we are witnessing in the awakening and rise of people associated with the LGBTQ community, is not a display of deviation and defiance toward the Law of the Lord but in fact was a display of God has a plan? What if, these very people (a minority, for now) are the next logical step in the evolution of mankind? Not despite their differences. Not because they go against the strain procreation demands, but just because?

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What if God has a plan that does not exclude those who are evidently so much more different than the majority of us, because they are the beginning of a new branch on the same old tree of life? What if this is Mother Earth’s reply to the growing overpopulation worldwide that is jeopardizing the welfare of the planet as a whole? What if this new branch of people out of sync with pro-creation of new life but in experiencing all life does have to offer to non-biological parents or childless people in fact were exactly in sync with God’s will for the well-being of the planet as a whole? Would not these very people who do not bring new life to this world be protecting the resources of all, simply by not adding to the resource eating tally?

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What if God has a plan includes that deviation from the original concept of procreation and fertile growth, because the planet is about to collapse under the weight of too many people needing all the things. Because wars are breaking out over clean water and food. Because precious children (younger faces of God) are dying by the thousands, daily world-wide, are being shunned, abused, exploited and forced into wars, labour or prostitution, denied basic human rights or even a chance for education. What if God has a plan, wanting that there would be more loving, caring good homes that need children, their owners unable to create their own biological children, but potentially excellent parents wishing to adopt or foster children who else would be subjected to human trafficking, poverty, racist, religious or gender based hate, exploitation, abuse, hunger, starvation, mutilation and death?

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What if God has a plan, and all those minorities, all those who defy the mainstream heterosexual procreation dictate, the lesbians, the gay, the asexual, the bisexuals, the poly-amorous lot, the kinky people, the transgendered, the gender fluid, the queer, those who don’t wish for a child, the single householders, what if they were not an unwanted deviation but exactly an answer to an existing real threat and part of God’s plan? And what if they were not in sin, but actually in sync with God, created different, like we all are, their own very special creation? What if they were not to be shunned but to be respected, as part of a solution to the overpopulation the mainstream has created and continues to perpetuate?

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Who is anyone to know and judge, when the same Holy Book says, “judge not”? What if God has a plan is to develop our humankind to be just that: human and kind. Can we afford to take the risk and stand against the Will of God? What if God, who makes no mistakes, did not make a mistake creating this new branch of people, who do not add to the problem and have potential to be an active part of a solution to a procreation dictate that has become obsolete. What if they are the future and not a mistake, by the Will of God who errs not? Should we not treat them with dignity and respect and clean up our own act first, before condemning what is different, but evidently God’s Will?

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Happy and Blessed Fourth of July, Independence day. in the year of the Lord 2017

play safe and sane, you know the game! #StrictMotivation

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how do you do the mouth soapings, Sir?

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Recently I have been asked by a few brats and interested folk, how I am doing mouth soaping. Without giving away the secrets of My trade, or going too deeply into details I will still try to answer the question, in this post so there is a point of reference, instead of typing individual emails all the time. #efficiency

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Speaking of efficiency, that is one of the aspects I am going by, when washing someone’s mouth out with soap. It will be a thorough experience, and it will not be a pleasure ride. Soap is a fierce and feared tool of correction and discipline. It is unpleasant and the taste is evidently rather disgusting so that erotizing the experiences generally is not so much of an issue.

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If someone does have a mouth soaping fetish, it is My job as a Disciplinarian to change the patterns and vary the application to a degree so that there will not be mixed messages sent – if we are talking about soap as a deterrent. If it is just for play, for fun, for a fun punishment (punishment) that is a different issue, in a way. If it is used for discipline and punishment, I will make sure this is a memorable experience leaving the desired impact on the one getting it applied.

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The question about what size of a soap bar I prefer, what kind of a soap, which brand etc, is really very difficult to answer, because My preference is not the issue; this is not about Me that much after all.

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I have to take into consideration the anatomy, health issues of the bottom (person receiving). Not all soaps are safe for everyone. As a responsible Top/Dom/Disciplinarian, I have to know about ph levels of the bars I am about to use.

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Since I have bottoms all around the globe and yes, mouth soaping can be done long distance, at least I am quite capable giving one in a very memorable and thorough fashion even without being physically present during the act,

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I have to also keep in mind that not every brand that I maybe prefer for one reason or another may be available in every country.

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I have to take into consideration that some people react not just to the ph levels, but may have allergies; SLS allergies, for example, can put quite a no go to most of the commonly regarded safe brands, and kinds of soap.

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On the other hand, can a too alkaloid soap cause chemical burns, which are not at all a side effect we desire when washing a mouth out with soap – even though, one could argue it is then an extremely memorable session.

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I still prefer to be able to calculate the risk that can be expected, so we can do even a CNC punishment scenario and still apply SSC / RACK as a guideline.

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Thankfully to the vast variety and choice of different brands and kinds of bars of soap, I also am in the comfortable position to being able making My own bars of soap, and through excellent suppliers am able to offer both varieties: SLS containing and SLS free varieties of glycerine based soaps, that are very sought after for their originally intended purpose, yet have been branded “enemy of brat-kind” by some of My girls and boys for their effectively deterring effects.

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Last not least I do want to mention, that when within agreed upon and negotiated limits, soap is being used for more than the purpose of washing out a potty or dirty mouth; knowing your implement, soap can add a lot to some other impressing activities, and make the bottom think thoroughly before engaging into questionable behaviors or lacking, let alone failing at the expected performance

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the Meaner art of soaping #BratTakeDown

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Let’s face the facts, brats will be brats. And sometimes it just happens so fast, that brats will run their fingers or mouth and say things they should not have said. It may be language stuff, you know: the kind of bad, where vulgar words are used for shock, or to be the laughing stock!

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But politeness and manners still do matter. A language should always be clean. And without being all to mean, we help the brat in its brat-attack, the best way, ’cause We care and can. It needs a Lady, it needs a Man, to stand up to their insolence, vile or verbal violence and help the brat their mess to cleanse!

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Whether they are bratty: adult, little or middle. The swift #BratTakeDown, is no riddle. And when you act real swift and thorough, their bad behavior won’t see tomorrow. Even the most sailor tongue, will soon learn that soap is no fun. That it is hard to erotize, and it brings tears quick into their eyes.

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We don’t give in, to their protest, nor to their screams how they’d detest, that smell, that taste, that gooey paste, the pose, the mess, Our non-idle threats, How they need to rinse, and how it bites, how they will never stop the fight! Let them drool with corner-time and well reflect their prior crime!

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Only when the lesson’s taught, that it won’t pay to play at naught! That We won’t have their mouth get soiled, nor them to act up like children spoiled! That talk back at authority: lack of respect – being naughty, leaves in its wake a bitter taste, on teeth, gums tongue sometimes for days!

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It is time to help them some. Come around from their brazen fun, onto the narrow, onto the straight. For betterment, it’s never too late. We had given them the cleansing speech, Because we care, them right to teach, so they may grow to being strong and keep away: from harms and wrongs.

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So brats be brats, we know just that. It’s what we know and can expect. We know there’s pull, push, forth and back. In all the chaos, what stands out, the ultimate reason: beyond any doubt. We do on this earth, as it is done from Above. We dole Discipline out to those whom We care for, or: love.

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May the 4th be with you #jedi

May the 4th be with you….  –

The poster below I had created years ago and captioned with this little poem:

 

 

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We are friends:

when you laugh, I laugh

when you cry

I cry

When you jump of a bridge

I will come swimming to your rescue

drag you ashore

and paddle your sorry, still wet ass

till Kingdom come

Repeat after Me:

Giving up is NOT an option

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Listen closely:

I totally get that life sucks at times. I know the bitter taste of defeat. I know the bitter and nagging feeling of hunger, both physical and emotional hunger. I understand not only why you are doing bad things, but know quite well and can empathize with the hardship you are going through.

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I get that pitch black dark place, that engulfs you and swallows you from time to time. I know the taunting voices that judge and condemn you, in your head and whisper their venom in your ear, 24/7. Those half truths and lies about how you are a failure and a lost cause, and how no-body gives a shit and why should you. How love hurts and how life is unfair.

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I had My sshre of that and I can tell you that that spewed venom should not blind your eyes and ears for the truth. I will not promise you, life as a pleasure cruise. I will make promises that I can keep. I promise you, that of you work hard and do the right steps life will be worth it. That yes, you can bounce back from that position of defeat, and no, failing, no matter how often you have repeated that cycle is not defining you – unless you let it!

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I care for you, and you too are facing what the young Luke Skywalker was facing. A hard fate, a tough situation, a cliff that seems larger than life and an abyss so dark you want to break down and give up. But giving up is not an option. Trying alone will not cut it. You need not just to try, you have to do, with wisdom and consistency of effort and then, failure has nothing on you. With love and dedication miracles are possible. Instead of giving up, take a chance, a leap of faith and get help, because we never give up. we just get better! #StrictMotivation

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Love conquers hate {SM1704}

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When we even hear the term BREAKING NEWS we already know what we will be seeing. And no surprise here happens ever. breaking news are shocking, displays of atrocity, inhumanity, vile and terrifying acts, that shake us to the core. Breaking news usually entail someone doing things we would not have thought possible, breaking all rules of conduct, violating our trust in humanity and tearing at the bond of faith. Shocking drama revealed before our eyes, regardless what we were doing. We are not just informed by our free will, or invited to consume something hard to digest. We get force-fed unspeakable lows of the human spirit and shown terrorizing images, worst-case nightmares coming true through the hands of our fellow women and men. Our sense of safety and values is shaken, our world turned upside down and downside up.

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What can anyone do, specifically what can you do, to cope with this brutal, violent, hate-filled and abusive fear inspiring experience? You can only feel overwhelmed and helpless, afraid and torn. You can only suffer and despair. At least that is what it feels like: when we see our fellow man go into the abyss of lows, giving in to evil, defying any sense of common sense or basic humanism, empathy and compassion in committing crimes of heinous atrocity, victimizing their direct victims and terrorizing us all along with them.

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What can you do about these horrible displays of human lows? How can you deal and cope with the unbearable? How can you not break under the pressure of the breaking news? How can you not give in after being bombarded with displays and proof that man too is evil, and that we all are doomed? How can you even as much as hope, let alone keep the faith that man is destined for greatness and meant to shine, that we all are created in God’s wonderful image – if what we see points to the opposite direction or would portrait God as a being of atrocious brutality? How can we manage to not despair?

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It starts with you. it starts with you not giving in to the pressure. it starts with you not consuming and getting consumed by the atrocities of evil. it starts with you not joining the army of ills. it starts with you not force-feeding the haunting images of what all is wrong in the world, to yourself and yours. it starts with breaking the chain and chain reaction of breaking bad news. it starts with you switching the TV off completely.

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It starts with you getting in touch with your true self. it starts with you praying to God or to Love itself (if you don’t believe in God). it starts with you defining where you are at, in life. it starts with you reassuring yourself about those core values you will be standing for. it starts with you reaffirming your bond to life: to care, to empathize, to feel, to love, to heal. it starts with you, restoring your self-worth. It starts with you rebuilding your inner temple, the inner sanctuary. It starts with you finding inner peace. it starts with you!

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It starts with you creating the change you want to see happen within you and grow it abundantly to the point that if you don’t share that change with others you’d suffocate in humble, happy, healing, caring, loving. It starts within you to that point where it overfills you so you start to radiate that message: through all your feelings, through all your thoughts, through all your words, through all your actions. That, in turn, will inspire people, it will influence people, it will maybe even better and change people.

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No matter how much we as a species may be able to suck, at our worst, we also are capable of shining at our best. There are billions of moments every second, that prove that we all don’t suck and that we are born to shine. To every atrocity there are testaments of miracle and overcoming, there are more people loving and caring and kissing, than there are people fighting, hurting and killing. There are more moments of togetherness, and care and humanity, than there are of exploitation. There are more teddy bears being produced worldwide in a year than guns!!!

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There is more love going on, but it’s not newsworthy material. It is taken for granted because it is so richly and abundantly available everywhere. And so the image we are being fed is only a peek into a portion of what mankind is about, an unbalanced, distorted view to the depths of evil we could be capable of committing if we did not remember our connection, our roots to that very nurturing soil that has brought us in the world: LOVE

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Reclaiming your freedom, reclaiming your sanctuary within and multiplying the principles we want to see reign our world, principles of love starts with you. it starts with you taking on the task of hard work necessary to create love. It starts with you shining amongst the darkness. It starts with you becoming the sheep among wolves. It starts with you reclaiming your innocence. It starts with you growing happiness and love. It starts with you restoring your own severed roots to the soil you are coming from and will once return to. It starts with you reclaiming your freedom and choosing what you will feed yourself: what kind of information you will allow being put into you, what seeds shall grow in your back yard.

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It starts with you becoming aware that you too are responsible for how this world will evolve and that it starts within you. It starts with you refusing the “easy way out” and the “quick fix in the moment” and that you choose long term happiness and love over instant gratification in the moment. It starts with you realizing that you must not become numb or devoid of emotions in order to escape that which frightens you: because if you grow apprehension, defensiveness, defiance, disgust and anger, you will reap it in abundance. For those who sow wind, shall harvest a storm, for as it is sown thus it is reaped!

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It starts with you learning to love like a child. It starts with you embracing a challenge. It starts with you growing over obstacles. It starts with you cultivating the very change you want to see grow abundantly in the world. It starts with you becoming the best version of you. It starts with you not breaking under breaking news but breaking free from their terrorizing messages. It starts with your freedom and it starts with your love. Because love will conquer everything and overcome even the unspeakable. Love for ever is.

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It starts with you engaging into the cultivation of different seeds, growing those very elements that the principle LOVE is made from, richly and abundantly, radiating its magic and its message through your very existence, and through everything you think, you feel, you say and you do. If you want that kind of harvest, you need to decide and consistently, tirelessly, diligently and devotedly plant and tend to those very seeds of love. And death shall have no dominion. And hate shall not prevail, and terror may not reign and evil will not stand a chance to derail our life.smartflag4smart_wht Kopie

It starts with you becoming the change you want to see. It starts with you becoming another testament of wo/man created indeed as an image of God and a facet of love itself #StrictMotivation 

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Life and its challenges can be hard, but growth always is worth it. Help is at arms reach. GRASP a working, doable, holistic step by step #StrictMotivation life coaching plan that best suits your needs. Don’t waste time and energy to complain about hardship, use that very energy to propel you at life. We just get better. (c) StrictMotivation@yahoo.com

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