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Always do what is right, even when it is hard, especially when it is hard! Integrity beats convenience anytime #StrictMotivation

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Strict Motivation offers help reaching your worthy life goals, through working, goal oriented real life coaching, Easily affordable. Strict Motivation is created to work Long Distance, from the convenience of your home and tailored to your specific needs, including as much discretion as you desire. Your gender identity or age are of no objection to Me. Strict Motivation is a holistic step by step approach. My Success rate with willing people tops 90%. no tricks, just get better with #StrictMotivation (c)StrictMotivation@yahoo.com

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Let God’s Light Shine

when darkness rears its ugly head
when there is no words to be spoken
and all seems said
and we are sad
and heartbroken
let God’s Light shine

when we feel numb, devoid of passion
when we are engulfed in blazing aggression
when we face the power of opression
and our hearts fill with hate
before it is too late
let Gods Light shine

when our head is spinning
and we seem to have lost our ways
and cannot make out the right path
and we mourn and are silenced by grief
and divided within in disbelief
let Gods Light shine

when all we feel is muffled and jumbled
when we scream within, yet outwardly silent
when our tongues are tied and we cant breathe
when we feel, robbed of faith and belief
let Gods Light shine

For it is written
that where God’s Light dont shine
evil will reign
and we all know how evil deals but pain
and suffering and abomination
and so in the face of atrocity
with the might of painful agony
rebuild God’s anatomy
from within your very make-up
and pray, with devotion
with commitment to truth
with dedication
and become God’s very shrine

especially in face of atrocity
let Gods Light shine

(c) 2016 StrictMotivation@yahoo.com

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Adversity is opportunity; an invitation to grow. what is on your path, you are destined to overcome #StrictMotivation

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get help to meet the challenges in your life and to grow with grace & devotion #StrictMotivation

 

 

how sweet are you? #beatZscale

#beatZscale  life will not be sweeter with sweet tasting foods: natural or artificial. nothing beats #healthyliving & #success for a sweet fulfilled life #StrictMotivation

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for those interested in a more detailed list of artificial sweeteners, this article I found on the internet lists artificial sweeteners  with a safety classification, glucose index info, brand names, E-numbers and background information you could find helpful. I am not associated with this website, but did find the info shared quite compelling. Those under My wings know favorable ways to nutrition, hydration,  life-style and healthy living.#StrictMotivation 

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#StrictMotivation {short for Strict Motivation individual life education}{SMile!} is a working, holistic do-able and goal oriented life coaching. It provides guidance and assistance and helps people as well as businesses turn failing into success. #StrictMotivation is designed to work Long Distance, from the convenience of your home and does not require you demeaning yourself let alone on web cam (!) #StrictMotivation comes with full discretion services protecting your identity at no extra charge; at your pace and your place, tailored individually to your specific needs. #StrictMotivation offers you the chance to reaching your worthy life goals. #StrictMotivation works for consenting adults and families / businesses, regardless of their age, ethnicity, gender identity, spiritual background, location, social / relationship / employment status, role, or sexual orientation. Reasonably priced, easily affordable rates and a working step by step program: My success rate with willing people tops 90% No tricks; just get better with #SMile! #StrictMotivation (c)StrictMotivation@yahoo.com

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My Ethics Manifesto {SM}{1641}

what you need to know, when you are under My wings….

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I work from a place of plenty. I am not a thirsty, hungry, lusting man, pressed to get itches scratched, nor to balance shortcomings and personal frustrations with jerking people around. I am not some immature boy, afraid of emotions and feelings, afraid to face and deal with the truth and hard things. I have had more than My share with hardship, and I know from both onlooking as well as personal experience how hard life can be. I have been kicked and beaten and had to learn to roll with the punches, but also come back better and stronger, choosing My battles and never ever giving up. It was quite a ride up until now, but I know that every hardship I have braved has made Me a better tool forged to help those in need of My services

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I have learned to be proud and I have learned to be humble. I have learned when to be loud and when to be silent. I have learned where a battle is necessary to be fought, even at the prospect of losing it, and when you have to tactically calculate a loss to receive a greater gain. I have learned about sacrifice, and that a lot of personal things should not be taken personally. However also that some things need to be taken personally and onto My own shoulders as to help someone else to grow.

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These have been lessons hard to learn, and I have come out scorched but not burned, scarred but not scared nor disfigured. I have learned to stand My ground and put My foot down as necessary but not becoming a tool of the enemy, in what ever form it may come.

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when I take on someone to care for, they are not just under My wings, so I can play boss. They are under My wings to be taken care of in every way possible. To be equipped and empowered to live a fulfilled and happy life. prepared and trained to live a life of freedom and responsibility, not the life of being a play ball in a game they don’t understand to play. I am empowering people to overcome their worst and becoming their best.

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When you are in My care and you are really pummeled by life, don’t count on Me becoming the enemies strap and whip you senseless. I will whip you into shape however I see fit instead . I will not be the enemies stick to beat you down when you are in the dirt. I will become that stick, that crutch you can get up on. I will get dirty, and not find it bad, hard or disgusting. I will not look down on you, like you are some weakling for being beaten down. I will still see the redeeming quality in you. I will see the potential and the spark. I will help you become the fire you aspire and need to be. I will fan you on, support you and be happy to help you.

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I will not just point in the right direction of the straight and narrow that will help to keep you safe and help you get the traction in your life you need. I will also lead by example and be holding Myself to a high standard, becoming the example you can get inspired by. I know where you are, because I have been there Myself. And I will not be condescending nor arrogant. I will be there with you every step of the way, patiently yet insistingly, pushing you to become the best you, you never even thought possible. Because I have a vision for you, because I care for you and because I do believe in you even in times where you cant.

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I may be Strict and harsh at times for your own good, but I will not ever be abusive. I will never give up on you or leaving you to your own devices when you are My responsibility. I will take your betterment seriously and make it a priority in your life. Because this is not just what I do.

This is who I am

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Cry into Me, I will not mind the tears and the snot. Blow your nose into My shoulder I will cherish you. I will help you get over that hardship and brave your life, because believe it or not, yes, you are worth it.

Keep going, I got your back

(c) 2016 StrictMotivation@yahoo.com

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#StrictMotivation is a working, holistic do-able and goal oriented life coaching. It provides guidance and assistance and helps people as well as businesses turn failing into success. Strict Motivation is designed to work Long Distance, from the convenience of your home and does not require you demeaning yourself let alone on web cam (!) Strict Motivation comes with full discretion services protecting your identity at no extra charge; at your pace and your place, tailored individually to your specific needs. Strict Motivation offers you the chance to reaching your worthy life goals. Strict Motivation works for consenting adults and families / businesses, regardless of the people’s age, ethnicity, gender identity, spiritual background, location, social /relationship /employment status, role,  or sexual orientation. Reasonably priced, easily affordable rates and a working program: My success rate with willing people tops 90% – No tricks; just get better with #StrictMotivation.

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Strawberry Fields – forever? {1703}{self-harm} #StrictMotivation

Strawberry Fields – forever?
Let me take you down
‘Cause I’m going to: strawberry fields
Nothing is real
And nothing to get hung about
Strawberry fields forever
This beautiful Beatles song with its poetic lyrics I have borrowed years ago, as a secret lingo code with Mine, for self-harming and self.injury, especially the kind that involves breaking the skin, like scratching off skin or cutting. I have chosen a benign, even beautiful and slightly psychedelic song title for many significant reasons. One of them was, so those under My wings could safely and without fear of repercussions of third parties communicate with Me about this habit.

Sometimes these people were children and adolescents (usually children of My “vanilla” clients, meaning people whom I got to know and work with through My Shaman consulting practice, and sometimes the clients who do the self-harming actually regress, so that having an unrelated, and yet very graphic term helped Me building a bridge, we could all be walking over safely.

There are so much guilt and shame going on surrounding this topic, as it is, that there is no need to set up another hurdle to jump over, by using clinical or intimidating, or dramatic words. In no way, shape or form doI wish to insinuate that the classic song has actually anything to do with this topic, let alone would make people do these acts. I also do not wish to trivialize or minimalize the subject.

Self-harming is not a new phenomenon. Even the Bible speaks of ritualized self-harming, as a form of worship to “Baal” (1 Kings 18:24-29). Certain Celtic warrior tribes would cut before battle. be it to proof their dedication and fearlessness, be it as a sacrifice to their Gods of War.

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Self-harming as a form of psychological stress relief has been described quite well in the recent years by Johnny Cash in the song “Hurt”:
I hurt myself today
To see if I still feel
I focus on the pain
The only thing that’s real
The needle tears a hole
The old familiar sting
Try to kill it all away
But I remember everything…

The phenomenon is neither new nor rare, and by far happens more often in its many forms than the average person would believe. Usually, it is done in the privacy and a lot of shame and guilt come along with it, also quite some stigmatization. In some cases, the self-destructive behavior is shown off and portrayed as heroic, or otherwise glorified by the person engaging in it – in an attempt to paint it with a less despicable brush. In either case, there is quite some self-denial at play.

It may not come as a big surprise that I stand firm against any and all forms of self-harming and self-injury. My opposition to this form of self-bullying and self-abuse is just as vehement, as I am opposing bullying and abusing someone else. There is no theory, under which an act of anger, fueled by frustration becomes justified and right especially if it involves damaging the structural integrity of any person, especially a vulnerable, hurting person.

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It does not make any much difference, whether the weapon of choice to cause the self-injury or self-injury by proxy is food, drugs or a razor blade. It makes not much difference whether we talk punching walls or head-butting walls. The mildest forms of self-injury, that usually are even socially somewhat accepted, are the “popping your own head” and people addicted to those trained behaviors will argue, these were “automatic, thoughtless actions” just as a smoker will describe lighting up a cigarette or an alcoholic would downing a shot: as natural and automatic responses, in an ill attempt to rationalize and minimize the unwanted and unacceptable act of self-harm.

I am well aware of the addictive potential that comes alongside the self-harming, and that there are components of the body’s own produced drugs, partially at play here be them adrenaline or endorphins among others – but all these technicalities should not mask the fact, that this is a trained behavior that can be and should be overcome. Even a substance dependency can be overcome through a consistency of effort, and so the argument, that maybe there is a drug component at play here, cannot fly.

There also will be the argument, that the person who is self-harming isn’t causing any external damage, or that they have consented to what they are subjecting oneself to, so what is the big deal. As you will see, I am no stranger to any such ill logic. Someone, who is as desperate as to take a weapon, or using their muscle strength to cause injury to oneself will claim that they are in control and that these acts of self-harm demonstrate that very self-control. That they know what they are doing. But if you ask a few questions more, you will notice, that the act of self-harming is done as to escape frustration.

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Whatever is the cause and trigger may be individually different. What is evident in all cases, is that the person doing self-harm lacks the ability to process anger and frustration, and takes it out at the weakest link at hand, themselves. Instead of growing past the pain of the frustration, instead of processing whatever causes them to be angry, overwhelmed or frustrated, they keep feeding the very enemy that sets them up for failing. With every punch, every cut they sabotage their self-worth, their own integrity, and thus feed the very force that is destroying them. Problems don’t get resolved, they grow and the temporarily felt relief is short lived: it is a vicious circle

The ill behavior which is a coping mechanism needs to stop and be replaced by working and solid coping skills. Sometimes, we use a substitute to help overcome the addictive nature of the acts of self-harming and the accompanying sensations native to those acts of self-injury, just as sometimes drug addicts are given substitute drugs to break them free from by-products and ill side behaviors to their drug addiction, so that the person caught in the vicious cycle can get a better working chance to fight their way out of the unwanted, self-destructive behavioral pattern.

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However, even when we do use substitute actions, we never bargain nor negotiate with the enemy (the ill behavior) and we don’t capitulate to it. We stand firm on what is right and implement the working solutions, step by step in a holistic approach. We do not just tackle the self-harming itself. In order to break the person from an addictive self-harming cycle, we change their habits considerably. We will tackle sleep patterns, nutrition, hydration and provide healthy structures to their life. We will be changing the way they go about problems, by slowly but surely teaching them to use different routes toward success at life. Instead of seeking short cuts and loop holes, we will build up their self-esteem and make them not shy from challenges: challenging themselves and growing past obstacles.

We will replace the failing and self-sabotaging behavioral patterns with working coping skills and instill a life-affirming working compass to help them navigate through even difficult emotions without getting off track. By helping them to find respect and self-respect we will manage to break them free from the trap of self-harm and all the lies and half-truths they have been telling themselves about it.

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Instead of feeding the raging angry monster within, that believes in its own ugliness, and its incapacity to love, we will teach and anchor the universal truth, that where there is love, there is forgiveness. we will be planting and tending to the seeds of love in the inner backyard and repair the inner landscape that has been vandalized and demolished through often years of self-loathing and self-injury. When we reset, we set the sails for success at life, instead of feeding systems of failure. Because it is a principle of love and of nature, that even the worst crises can be overcome.

Strawberry fields, do not have to have a season all year, not even come into season once every year. And if I can help it, they will not last forever #StrictMotivation

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Strict Motivation offers help reaching your worthy life goals, through working, goal oriented real life coaching, Easily affordable. Strict Motivation is created to work Long Distance, from the convenience of your home and tailored to your specific needs, including as much discretion as you desire. Your gender identity or age are of no objection to Me. Strict Motivation is a holistic step by step approach. My Success rate with willing people tops 90%. no tricks, just get better with #StrictMotivation (c)StrictMotivation@yahoo.com