My love is unconditional. your comfort and privileges are behaviorally conditional, and that is how I handle things. I am upfront and consistent about this. I tell you time and again; in the writing and orally. I also tell you behaviorally. I lead by example. My love does not depend on how you behave at all. It is given. Freely, abundantly. Always. If I love you, I tell you, that I love you. And I mean it. I do love you. That does not change, even when you are being a horribly ill-behaved child at that time. Still, I love you. In ways, you cannot even begin to imagine. With an intensity second to few.
If I did not love you, I would kick you to the curb when your behavior gets out of control. I would not pray, meditate and ask God’s guidance in being your Daddy/Sir. I would not work, hard and SMart, for that matter, to tailor My #StrictMotivation to your individual needs and abilities. I would just insist on you do what everyone else does, that one size must fit all approach. But I do not do that. I do not go easy on Myself. I make individual programs for individual people based on their need and abilities, and put their best longterm interest on top of the list. My own (or their) “wants” take a back seat.
If I did not love you, I would tell you, that your lying and deceits, as well as your defiance and disrespect, hurt Me to the core (which they do) and that I will not suffer from your bad girl/boy ways, since you seem not sufficiently self-motivated to actually give enough an effort to work on your own betterment – despite having been provided Bridges (tools), Direction/Discipline, Structure, Motivation.
I actually love you. And unconditionally. That means also, that you are forgiven your trespassings without reservations, and that I heal the emotional wounds you are causing Me, and balancing the pain you are subjecting Me to, nonconsensually at that. Because My love is My armor and My honor is My shield. Because I love you, you still have a Daddy/Sir and are still considered part of My family – even when you fall short on the very essentials.
When you do practice honestly I am thanking you for that; when you do good I am acknowledging the good behavior: I am praising you. Even though you may have lied and been dishonest, in the past, I am still talking to you. Still communicating. Still listening to your complaints and trepidations. Still reading and usually even acknowledging through a sign or a short message your texts, your posts, direct messages, emails.
Independently from what has happened in the past, I am answering every report you send. I am polite and cordial, and respectful and loving – I am not coddling and overly enthusiastic if your behavior does not justify it. That way you are inspired to actually do good in order to get My attention. You are also this way learning that attention and in that praise is much better than attention through negativity (scolding/punishments). It inspires you to work harder for betterment than just dysfunctioning and this way getting negative attention – but in essence, attention which is your main currency.
When you are not doing good, I am discouraging those behaviors through what I know will leave an impression on you. Using tools that have proven to be ineffective with you, would be a grave mistake, I will not make. Since you crave attention to the point that negative attention is for you another form of a reward, being reactive to your misbehavior through “dealing with you” would be rewarding your ill behaviors and thus ill-advised.
You still have a family and My family still has you. you are banned from the family activities (grounded) because you were openly defiant to Daddy/Sir in His House. If you are used to that level of disrespect from your life so far, you will have to change for the better now, because I am not having it under My roof. If you want to bark like a dog and you will be banned onto the yard (figuratively) because I will not have you talk trash to Me. Thus you may learn to behave like a civilized – social – human being again. I will choose a time-out long enough to give you time to rethink the wrong of your ways.
When breaking rules and guidelines, being willfully disobedient, or casually ignorant of the behavioral expectations, or causing havoc and creation of chaos are “usual” for you, your usual will lead you by default into chaos in your life. I am opposed to your erratic, chaotic, self-defeating and (self) destructive ways.
The only way to get you out and keep you out is to reorganize your life toward function and order. I am standing for that. I am your Daddy/Sir.
How it may feel or may not feel to you is for you to feel, not for Me to change My ways. So, yes, I am aware you may feel crushed by the ways things currently are. They are the way, because of your behavior not because I changed My course or even stopped loving/caring or in your words”giving a sh*t”.
Do not complain, after months of dishonesty, constant omissions, or a lie straight to My face that you have to work back trust by the impeccable integrity of your behavior in that field. Be grateful I care enough to follow through and not kick you to the curb.
Be grateful somebody does not get driven off by your tantrums, and mood swings, and your emotional extortion practice, of “look how bad i feel, you must now let up on my deserved consequences so i can continue running myself in a ditch”. your thus manipulation attempts fail. (it may not be conscious manipulation, but subconscious – yet that does not change the fact it is manipulative = dishonest)
You may feel like shit. That is OK. It is even part of the reason why I have grounded you. Why I have put you in time-out. Why I have temporarily removed privileges you had arrogantly thought you were entitled to. The reason for your extended corner time. The reason for your temporary isolation.
Punishment is supposed to suck. It is supposed to make you feel bad. It is supposed to give you a feeling of this behavior is not worth the consequences it entails. It will thus give you a new perspective to view things.
Right now you are in the ill belief, that just because it feels good to you momentary, it justifies doing it (and: if it feels bad to you at the moment it justifies avoiding it).
That is a failing life strategy. It is the immaturity of a child, and un-adult behavior and thinking that pushes to the conclusion. they are mannerisms of an addict too. This form of unreasonable, even if apparently logical conclusion is the root of your overall unhappiness
I am not having it. I am opposing ill behaviors, and definitely not rewarding them.
I love you. Unconditionally. Your level of comfort depends on your level of good behavior with Me
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